FEATURE: The Flaw That Can Set You Free


Feature by NLP Practitioner Emma Jeffreys, AKA Action Woman

Our brains are utterly amazing. The most complex and powerful tools. But they are not perfect. In fact, they have a fundamental ‘flaw’ that can literally change our lives if we remember to exploit it. 

The human brain does not know the difference between reality and fiction. It doesn’t know whether or not something is actually real. In other words, it can’t tell the difference between something you’re thinking about and something that’s actually happening.

Sound like I’m making things up again?

Try thinking about a time in your life when you were really anxious or scared. Picture in your mind the images of what made it so scary. Blow the images up really big and make them life-like. Feel what you felt at the time, think what you thought while you were there. Keep running it through your mind over and over while you do this, reliving the experience.


Even though you’re sitting comfortably reading this, safe and secure, you can feel some of that fear and anxiety can’t you? Not as scared as you were at the time but just replaying that event over again in your head rekindles the feelings and worry you had when the actual experience was physically taking place. 

And that makes sense. Because your mind doesn’t know the difference between what’s real and what isn’t.

So if we can make ourselves feel scared even when we have no reason to be any more, then we can make ourselves feel motivated or confident or successful again just by thinking about it.

We just have to picture the reality we want to create. Our beautifully brilliant and flawed brains will do the rest.

I remember the first time I challenged myself to post a video on my Facebook business page, something I had been putting off for a long time because it was scaring me. I had created a story in my head about getting my words in a muddle, freezing on camera, followers not being interested and people talking about me negatively. No wonder I was scared. 

But when I sat down in front of the camera I recalled a time when I felt in control and confident and when everything went really well. I let those feelings come back to me and then I pictured what was going to happen. I pictured a short but energetic video where I was honest and authentic. I pictured positive support from people and I imagined them saying ‘well done you.’

As soon as I saw things going well instead of going wrong I felt more confident, liberated and importantly courageous enough to do it! 

Everything is created twice, first in the mind and then in reality. So pay close attention to the thoughts you choose as they have a way of becoming real.

Change the way you think and you can change your entire life.